Adam

Adam was given my phone number at the dating agency (the one who also let the pervert and the married guy contact me – what a crap agency that was! - only now I realize that), although I have already cancelled my membership and shouldn't be in their database any longer.

He sends me a text message: “Hello, my name is Adam, I got your number at the agency and would like to meet you. I am 32 and single”. Hmmm, he's a bit young (I am 6 years older), but why not? However, I would like to find out something more about him first so I text him back: “Why not? But tell me something more about yourself, please. What do you do? What are your hobbies?”

He writes back: “I work as an IT manager, I love cooking and going to the cinema. I also love good music.” That's what I like, too so I text him back: “It looks like we've got the same hobbies.”

His answer: “Great. When can I meet you then?” I write back: “How about this weekend?”; he replies: “Fantastic. Saturday?”

It's only Monday now, so I text him back: “Perfect. Please, call me on Thursday so we'll talk about the details, OK? Have a nice day. Jenny” He texts me back: “OK, I will. I look forward to meeting you”.

Everything seems to be OK, I am also looking forward to meeting him, but an hour later I get another text from him: “Hi. What are you doing?”, so I reply: “I'm getting ready for classes, I teach English”, he texts me back: “All right, but can we chat now?”, I answer: “Not really, I am sorry, but I really need to prepare for these classes & I have to leave in half an hour.” He texts me back: “All right, I won't bother you then, have a nice day at work”. I write back: “Thank you, you too”.

I leave for my classes, when I'm at school I mute my mobile phone (I never switch it off in case someone has to contact me with something really important – that's what we've got mobile phones for – to be 'reachable', right?). Anyway, just when I'm about to start my first lesson, I receive a message, but I don't know the sender, so I don't open it (can't be that important). However, half an hour later I get another text message. During the break I read both messages, they're from Adam! The first one says: “I hope you are having a nice day”, the second one: “Let me know when I can text you.” But he just did! Although I did inform him I wouldn't be able to chat, he is still sending me messages! I'm starting to think the idea of a date with Adam is a mistake. I don't write back. On my way back from work I get another message: “Hi. How was your day?” I am a bit reluctant to write back but I reply to it: “It was all right, thank you. I am really busy now so can't talk. Please, call me on Thursday.”

He doesn't answer and I start to think that maybe I was a bit judgemental and maybe he really is a nice guy, only slightly bored at work? However, the next day, at about 10:00 I get a text message from Adam: “Hi. How are you? Did you dream of me last night ;-)? I was hoping to get a message from you this morning, but you didn't send me any.”

What??? First of all, why should I dream of him? Secondly, why should I text him? I write back: “Sorry, but I don't text guys I don't really know first thing in the morning, I'm not the type”; he writes back: “Not even a 'good morning, how are you?' type of message?”

Would I want to text a guy I haven't seen, haven't met and I don't even know if I like him – first thing in the morning? I don't think so. I don't even feel like replying but half an hour later he sends me yet another message: “But maybe you will find time to text me during the day? Something nice?” I don't think so. I haven't stored his phone number yet, but now I do it under the name: “don't answer”. I sooo don't want to meet him. The jerk needs a nanny, not a girlfriend! I text him: “I am really sorry, but I don't think our date is such a good idea. I don't think we are compatible. Please, do not text me again.”

Do you think he listens? The messages don't stop coming. They're all the same type – he wants to 'chat' and meet me, but it's not going to happen. Finally, after a few weeks, he gives up and stops texting me. Maybe he's found another 'victim'? I don't care, I'm just happy I am not disturbed by his endless messages (some were sent in the middle of the night). The guy does have a problem!