Tim

Tim is 36 and lives in my city. That's all I know. He didn't put a photo in his profile, but he sent me a nice message; he also wanted to meet me in the next couple of weeks. I decided to give him a chance and get to know him better. I reply to his e-mail but ask him to e-mail me his photo. He writes back: “Thanks for writing back but I can only send you my photo to your mobile phone because I don't have any photos in my computer. What do you think? Will you give me your mobile number?”

Normally, I would give a nice, genuine guy my number (once I got to know him a bit better), but this message just seems weird and not genuine. The guy uses the computer to e-mail me so he clearly knows how to use it. Now, even if he really doesn't have any photos in his computer, is there a problem with sending some from his mobile to his computer (USB, bluetooth etc.)? In the 21st century? I don't think so. So he's either a total computer moron or he thinks I'm a total moron and will fall for his lie. I write back: “I am sorry but I would rather receive a photo to my e-mail address. I don't give my mobile number to people I don't know at all. I once did that and ended up getting endless text messages in the middle of the night. I hope you're OK with that.”

His reply: “I am really sorry but I don't have any photos in my computer. On the other hand, I totally understand you. Nevertheless, I hope we'll be able to meet. Regards. Tim”

Firstly, shall I give him instructions how to connect a mobile phone to a computer? Secondly, would I want to meet someone I have no clue what they look like? Another blind date? I still remember 'Antonio Banderas lookalike', so I'll take a pass on that.

Next day I get another e-mail from Tim: “Hi. Just because some creepy guy was stalking you does not mean that I will. I suggest we meet in person. What day would suit you? Regards. Tim”

Well, I wasn't worried about stalking... until now. I think the best way would be to ignore Tim, but the following day he sends me yet another message: “WHAT ABOUT OUR DATE?”

This time I politely write back: “I am sorry but I have just started going out with someone so a date would not be a good idea now. I wish you good luck and all the best. Jenny”

I didn't meet anyone but I thought that would shut him up. It doesn't. He sends me another e-mail: “SO WHAT? WE CAN STILL MEET, TALK AND HAVE A COFFEE, DON'T WE? HOW ABOUT MONDAY? TELL ME WHERE AND WHEN. HAVE A NICE EVENING”

Well, unfortunately it won't be that nice, because now I will be thinking about some arrogant bloke without a face... I keep on ignoring him and after a few days (and 1 or 2 messages I didn't dare to open) he finally gets the message and stops sending me e-mails and visiting my profile.