I have found an article on the internet about one of the sites I had signed up with. The author of the article claimed that the site was a scam. So I decided to read it. Then I started reading the comments underneath it. And... I could not believe my eyes! Most of the comments were from women, complaining that the guys they had met there disappointed them. I wasn't surprised with that – most of the guys we meet disappoint us, but I was surprised with the excuses women used. Had I read that article a few months ago, I would have probably agreed with most of the complaints, but now I'm wiser, more experienced, I know what guys do and I know how they act towards women.
Why was I surprised with these girls' excuses? Well, here are a few examples:
1. A woman got a one-liner from a guy, which she considered to be the most ridiculous comment she had ever heard of. So what did she do? She sent him a response telling him that the comment seemed a bit off the wall. And she was surprised she never heard back from him, though it was him who had contacted her first and apparently felt she was a good match for him.
Come on! How can you be surprised? Have you ever met a guy who likes to be criticized? Of course you will never hear back from him, even if you look like Angelina Jolie!
2. Some women complained that they found fake profiles on the site.
Well, unfortunately there are fake profiles on EVERY dating site. It is impossible for every single profile to be checked by the administrators of the site. Besides, how would they do that? As a member, you can write anything you want – that you are a filthy rich CEO, looking for the love of your life etc., when in fact you can be an unemployed, married guy with kids and a midlife crisis. (Quite often if a guy is really rich he won't post that information in his profile; however, if a man has financial problems, he might be bragging about his 'wealth', hoping to find an 'equal' partner). As a member, you can put a photo of your choice to your profile, right? If you are honest, you will put your own photo. However, if you are a very insecure and dishonest person, you will put a photo of some model, actor or just a good-looking person you have found on the net, claiming it to be yours. Who can verify that? Administrators will only check whether the photos are tasteful and not offensive.
3. Another girl claimed that the site was fake because she received an e-mail from a gorgeous guy but could not read it because she hadn't paid the membership fee.
Well, who would pay for the membership if you could read and reply to e-mails without joining the site? The site would go bankrupt.
4. A few female members complained that they didn't get replies from guys who wrote to them and they wrote back to. They claimed that the guys didn't even open their e-mails. One was also puzzled and confused that guys viewed her profile only once.
Well, how many times should a guy check a woman's profile before he writes to her? I think once is enough, twice – if a guy doesn't have a good memory or cannot decide whether he likes her or not. As to getting no replies – men lose interest, they get bored, find someone else or they are just assholes. What can you do? How many frogs do you have to kiss before one changes into the real prince? One is the answer in fairy tales only. Yes, IT IS irritating when you get an e-mail from a bloke you like, you reply to it and then... you get no answer (I used to be really pissed off when it happened to me, but then I thought to myself – well, it's his loss. That's what you should do, too! You deserve someone who will think the world of you, not treat you like second-best.)! You start to think: “What have I done wrong?” The answer is: ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Some men are like that. They will send dozens of e-mails to different women just to get their attention (I call them 'sad losers' group), then won't answer when they get replies. Some men will e-mail a few women and after getting the reply they will decide which one/ones they would like to get to know better.
